Virtual Breakup
Posted: Thursday, July 30, 2009
by Mulaykah
I anticipated his e-mail, I waited for it for days... what could it be now? I thought... He has made me promise things that I had no idea what I was promising before.
Every time he's made me promise in the past I grew anxious!
I know its usually always something I feel uncomfortable with, but if I don't promise he'll be upset... If I do promise I have to follow through.
He wrote via text message "Promise me that you would do everything I say in the e-mail that I send" I then replied "...Okay I promise... as soon as I text those words I felt uneasy.
Three days later while walking down a busy New York street Bronx to be exact, I decided to pick up my phone and pressed the icon that accesses the internet highway.Yahoo was the address.
I typed in my e-mail and password then saw his name. I pointed my mouse towards the new bold email... sat the arrow on it... click...It opens, my heart starts beating hard and fast so fast I felt as if I just finished running a marathon.
Every time he's made me promise in the past I grew anxious!
I know its usually always something I feel uncomfortable with, but if I don't promise he'll be upset... If I do promise I have to follow through.
Three days later while walking down a busy New York street Bronx to be exact, I decided to pick up my phone and pressed the icon that accesses the internet highway.Yahoo was the address.
I typed in my e-mail and password then saw his name. I pointed my mouse towards the new bold email... sat the arrow on it... click...It opens, my heart starts beating hard and fast so fast I felt as if I just finished running a marathon.
My eyes skimmed over the words:
"I am divorcing you, your special, you need special nurturing and I am not the man to do it.
Forgive me for ever thinking that I could. You need to stay in New York, don't worry about the keys, the locks will be changed, let me know where I can send your things. I am sorry, may God bless me to be a better man.
"The promise? Please don't speak of my faults to anyone, do not contact my parents to let them know what has happened! I will tell them in my own way."
He ends the letter after writing a few more worthless words that did not help the pain to the blow I had just received.
Why-and how could he do this? We were okay, at least that is what I thought. We left each other on good terms...He sent me on the plane almost 2000 miles away from him to visit my family.
Now I have to struggle, be confused try to pick up all the shattered pieces of my life that just fell to the floor.
A one way ticket; he paid 130 dollars to get me out if his life for good...and made me believe everything was good between us just so he could break up with me... virtually-through e-mail.
I know since the birth of the internet there has been many break ups just like this one...But I was not his girlfriend I was his wife.
So where was the respect? There was none.
He ends the letter after writing a few more worthless words that did not help the pain to the blow I had just received.
Why-and how could he do this? We were okay, at least that is what I thought. We left each other on good terms...He sent me on the plane almost 2000 miles away from him to visit my family.
Now I have to struggle, be confused try to pick up all the shattered pieces of my life that just fell to the floor.
A one way ticket; he paid 130 dollars to get me out if his life for good...and made me believe everything was good between us just so he could break up with me... virtually-through e-mail.
I know since the birth of the internet there has been many break ups just like this one...But I was not his girlfriend I was his wife.
So where was the respect? There was none.
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Top-level comments on this article: (3 total)I have to admit Mulaykah, the first time I read this I was in disbelief! would anyone really be so cold as to divorce through text? Thanks for sharing your heart!
Yes Laura, I guess people can be that cold...He certainly was.You know you hear about things like this and they always happen to other people and the men are usually jerks.But he was not a jerk,although his actions has certainly placed him in the realm of them.You think you know someone, can predict their behavior,in his case I definitely never put it past him to leave me, but not leave me out in the cold and not leave me this way.We had our problems, like all marriages, but we did not have a bad marriage. There was no cheating,no lying at least none that I knew of and any financial problems-well I was always a woman that money did not mean much to me, give me the basics, treat me kind with a lot of affection and I would be fine.I had been patient,the kind of woman that resembled a step ford wife, but with a brain-with an opinion.Maybe that's where I went wrong :) I had too much of an opinion for him.But... It's Okay, I am going to be fine.I bounce back quickly. I was told to have the skin of wolverine :)..A comic book character that heals from wounds in the matter of seconds.The reason for it? I never give my heart completely, and in my opinion, no one ever should. Its good to hold a little bit back for yourself, and only love God completely.Once you give your heart completely to someone they become your God, you may worship them as such, and give them total right to treat your heart any way they wish. If they break it, you feel torn apart destroyed.I don't feel destroyed, like if I can't move on and be better, because I saved some of my heart for myself.Thanks for reading and leaving a comment.If any one has a similar experience please leave a comment,I and other people would love to hear it!So no one can ever feel alone, because we're not.
By Mulaykah-
There are alot of people that choose this method of breaking up with some one.I don't think this is a respectful way,but at the same time I know its a easy way not to deal with any arguments,and make a clean break from someone.Although I would have expected this type of treatment to be towards someone you barely know,not with someone you have shared your life with.What can you say about people nowadays?Your right there was no respect.
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